中华文化的数字 " 7 "

在中华文化中，同时存在着对“七”的崇拜与禁忌这两种完全对立的现象。

崇拜之情，可从牛郎织女七月初七的“七夕相会”传说中，发挥得淋漓尽致。另外，许多出现在民间流传的神话传说，典籍及俗语中也与“七”相关。例如： 乐有七音，颜有七色，人有七情，生活开门有七件事，“山中方七日，世上已千年”的民间传说。

然而，中华文化对于“七”更多的是一种禁忌。
送礼忌七件，饭桌上的菜忌七盘，良辰吉日忌初七，十七和二十七。而且以“七”组成的习语大多带有贬义。例如： 七零八落，七手八脚，七嘴八舌，七拼八凑，七拱八翘，七上八下，七推八阻，七病八痛，七扭八歪等。

数字“七”之所以在中华文化中被视为忌讳的数字，最大原因是崇尚偶数的心理，而且与祭奠死者的传统有关。自古华人对去世的人每“七”日祭拜一次，“头七”（死后第七日），“三七”（死后第二十一日），直到“尾七”（死后第四十九日）为止。

西洋文化的数字 " 7 "

在西洋文化中 “ 7 ” 是神圣的数字。人们极之着重的数字。
西方人凡事都爱凑足“7”，也常用“7”来规范自己的道德行为，归纳宗教仪式。

例如： seven virtues （七大美德）， seven deadly sins （七宗罪），seven gifts of the holy spirit （七大圣灵财富），seven sacraments （七大圣礼) 等。
甚至连婚姻，西方人也说要经历危险的七年之痒 （ seven-year itch ）

西方许多神话，传说中，都多次出现“ 7 ”，尤其<圣经>中“ 7 ”的使用更达到了登峰造极的境界。
<圣经>上记载上帝规定第七日为安息日； 上帝用亚当的第七根筋骨造夏娃； 撒旦的原身是有七个头的火龙； 共有七名堕落天使被称为撒旦； 上帝在第七天召摩西传旨。。诸如此类，数不胜数。

除了行为道德与信仰，数字“ 7 ”也渗透到西方社会生活的各个方面。像是世界的七大奇观，西方童话中的白雪公主和七个小矮人等。

这些都说明数字“ 7 ”在西方文化中占有重要的位置。西方人也对“ 7 ” 情有独钟。

禁欲求真爱？

太快和男人上床，两人可能会维持一种肉体关系。
“女人因爱而性，男人因性而爱。”
为了能让男人爱上自己，而维持肉体关系。

这是一则新讯息：
大部分男性只要有女性自动送上门，男性们决不拒绝。
他们可以在上床后，很无情的对你说：“我不爱你。”

如果你因为太快和男性上床，之后不断猜想：“他是真的喜欢我？还是只想和我做爱？”
与其如此，女性们不如和对方交往久些，待确定彼此的情感，再做决定。

可惜有些女生就会害怕：“如果他因此而离开我，怎么办？”

男性们如果真的因此而离开，那么也不值得留恋，因为他还不够爱你。
他们得到了你，最终还是可能离开你。
要践踏自己，或珍惜自己。

Hephzibah Anderson花了10年时间，发现和她有过性关系的男友，即然没有一位真正的爱过她。如果真的想寻求真爱，禁欲求真爱的道理不仿试试。

Problems? what an " up person " does!

Problems are only opportunities in work clothes.

For years, railroad authorities dreamed of a rail crossing the Andes Mountains, perhaps following the course of the Rimac River. Engineers from around the world were called in to appraise the project and they all declared it to be impossible. Then, as a last resort, a Polish engineer named Ernest Malinowski was called.

Malinowski's reputation was well-known, but at the time he was called, he was sixty years old and no one wanted to impose such a rigorous task on a man his age. Malinowski, however, assured the representatives of the various countries involved that the job could be done, and he was hired to begin work on what was to be the highest railroad on earth.

Construction of the railroad posed both geographic and political challenges. The project required sixty-two tunnels and thirty bridges, one tunnel running 4,000 feet some 15,000 feet above sea level. On two occasions, revolutions in one or more countries held up construction. Once, Malinowski had to flee Peru and supervise the project while in exile. Still nothing deterred this aging Pole from moving forward on the railway that was considered one of the wonders of the world when it was completed in 1880.

What problem are you using as an excuse today? Change your perspective. What opportunities can you see in the midst of your problems? Put on your work clothes and get busy! That's what an " up person " does!

Enjoy yourself ^^

Yesterday is a canceled check;
tomorrow is a promissory note;
today is the only cash you have,
so spend it wisely.

"In a Chinese Garden," is the story of how a patient named Marguerite impacted the life of Dr.Frederic Loomis, an ob/gyn in China. The young woman had lost her baby and Dr. Loomis had gone to her bedside to grieve with her.

Afther her release from the hospital she wrote to him, recalling the fatigue she had seen in him and sharing with him a message she had seen on a garden wall. She hoped the words would be as meaningful to him as they had been to her: " Enjoy yourself. It is later then you think".

Her letter prompted Dr. Loomis to take a three-month leave of absence from his position at the hospital. He shared the letter with a friend, who spontaneously agreed to travel to South America with him.

In South America, they met a prominent man with whom they shared their story. The next day, this man told Dr.Loomis that he had decided to take his family for a long overdue vacation. He said, " It was a very long finger indeed that wrote those words on the garden wall in China".

Through the years, countless others have responded to Dr. Loomis' story, deciding to no lokger put off the things they've always wanted to do to make life more enjoyable. Today, perhaps the message from the Chinese garden is for you: Enjoy yourself. It is later than you think!